How to Let Go of a Bad Experience

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We all have had a few devastating experiences. Image by Виктория Бородинова from Pixabay

Last breakup was tough. Losing your loved ones is hard. Saying goodbye to your friends, well it’s not a walk in the park. We’ve all been through quite a lot. At these times of distress, the most common form of consolation would be to talk about it with someone who understands you. But it’s not easy finding someone who can understand the situation you’re in, and even though you find someone like that the most rational advice you get from them could be “just let it go”.

OKAY. Thank you very much for that. The only thing I had to do was to let it go. Simple. I wonder how I missed that. Damn me.

Listen here. We know that we have to let go of that traumatizing experience. What preventing us from doing that and achieving ultimate freedom of mind is that it’s not that EASY.

Why is it so hard to let go?

Right, let’s break it down step by step. First, we need to understand that the root of the problem. Attachments. There I said it. I have them. You have them. We all have attachments to uncountable number of things in life, may it be mental or physical. The more you’re attached to something, the more you will be affected by its change of status one day. Let me get an example. Pardon me for a moment and think about a loved one you lost recently. The moment you knew they were gone; you couldn’t believe it. Hell, you properly lost your mind. Then you started remembering the countless amazing experiences you’ve had and the fact that you’re never going to have those kinds of memories again felt like a kick in the gut. You start missing them. Tears, yes that’s a given. You start lamenting over the past you’re never going to have again and you question the meaning of life.

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Accepting the truth is never easy. Photo by Lukas Rychvalsky from Pexels

Accepting the reality of life

That’s basically how you usually feel after losing someone you dearly love. Fast forward to the present day. Do you feel the same about that loss today? Sure, it feels like it’s left a hole inside of you for the rest of your life but is it really devastating like it used to be? I don’t think so. See, as time passes, we kind of make peace with the fact that they’re not in our life anymore and we learn to cope with the grief. The more attached you were to that person, the more saddened you’ll be. Similarly think of a distant relative whom you lost recently. You surely didn’t behave the way you did earlier upon hearing that loss. Simply, you weren’t attached to that distant relative the way you adored your close companion. So, when you simplify all these facts, you begin to understand that the less attachments you have in life, the less worried you’d be when things start changing.

Accepting this bitter truth will change your whole perspective in life. After all we’re just mere passengers in this cruise of life and we’re not here to stay forever. So why get attached to mortal lives and possessions when you know you’d be tearing down when you lose them someday. We need to accept this reality and move on with our lives. It won’t be easy, I know. But it will certainly help knowing that nothing is permanent in this world, not even the sorrows.

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